Your New Resolutions
Do Your Resolutions Reflect Your Values?
2012 is now upon us and if you are like most of us, the thought of making grand New Year’s resolutions has crossed your mind and in fact, you probably have already got your list of resolutions made.
What are the chances that you will succeed in keeping those resolutions this year? It depends. . .
Do Your New Year’s Resolutions Reflect Your Values?
. . .or are they the run of the mill, general goals that a lot of people make? For example, if you have set a resolution to become healthier in this brand spanking new year that we have been given, is health already a priority for you?
Ask yourself these questions when writing your resolutions:
Do I really want to be healthier or is this something I think I should be doing?
How, specifically, do I want to be healthier?
What does “healthy” mean to me? Define it.
How does my current behavior need to change in order for me to be healthier?
Once you determine what healthy means to you (specifically. . .I want to be able to go for a five minute run without needing to use my inhaler, by March 15 is very specific)
Take that goal or resolution and imagine yourself having already accomplished it, feel the feelings that you have when you have accomplished it at that date in the future that you chose. . .see what that looks like to you and make it bigger and brighter. When you can see that, as clearly as you can, imagine that you look back to now and see all the events line up so that you have that goal achieved, just like that.
This is in essence, reverse engineering your resolutions. Instead of planning all of the little steps to get you there, you look back and see all the steps that did allow you to succeed. It does work. Give it a try!
Baby Step Your Way to Success
Pick one area of your life that you want to work on. That way, you will avoid overwhelm. Can you imagine how slim your chances of success are if you decide to make 5 major resolutions in 5 different areas of your life?
Give yourself a break this year and just pick one small, achievable goal. If you do that, your chances for success will soar. When you achieve it, your self esteem will get such a boost, because you have kept a promise to yourself. . .and that is very important, isn’t it?
Make it easier on yourself by using simple tools:
Mind map your goal
Use a timer and set it for 15 minute allotments to work on your goal
Mark a check or an x on a calendar every time you work on your resolutions; look at it once a week to give you the big picture of how well you are progressing
This isn’t about self discipline, it is about self love. Love yourself enough to give yourself the space to achieve your goal. Hold yourself accountable, yes, and make it very, very doable. Make this the year you achieve a New Year’s resolutions, easily.
About the Contributor:
Sherie Venner is a relationship and personal change coach. She realizes that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. She, and many members of her family, have dealt with celiac disease and the gluten free diet for the past 10 years. We are all thriving. Embracing change can be empowering! Catch her on her blog where she talks about relationships and change. Learn more about Sherie at http://www.sherievenner.com/
Nancy Olson’s Thoughts:
I love to set goals or resolutions especially this time of year. I do all types of goals, long term and short goals in all areas of my life that are important to me. I will look at them often throughout the year and I will even add goals if something comes up that I need to reach by a date I break it down. Thanks to Sherie she give us a good outline of how to do this especially if goal setting is new to you. I can remember the first time I set goals or resolutions I could not come up with anything as I thought that was not a good goal to write down it may not seem right write it down if it is important to you.
Resolutions are fun, what is your #1 resolution?